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Mary Oliver, the Pulitzer-winning American poet: “Never stop being capricious. And never, ever entrust anyone with responsibility for your life”

From Clarín · () Spanish

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  • Mary Oliver’s advice combines a call to preserve wonder with a warning not to surrender responsibility for one’s life.
  • The article links the idea to Oliver’s poetry, which focused on nature, everyday attention, spirituality, and emotional clarity.
  • Oliver won the 1984 Pulitzer Prize for Poetry for “American Primitive” and died in 2019.

“Never stop being capricious. And never, ever give anyone else responsibility for your life,” Mary Oliver once wrote. The sentence sounds playful at first, but its lesson is demanding: remain open to surprise while refusing to hand over ownership of your life.

The first part can be read as an invitation not to grow hard. As people get older, they may feel pressured to become practical, reasonable, and predictable. Oliver pushes against that idea. To be “capricious” does not mean acting without ethics. It means keeping a living relationship with the world, continuing to look closely, be surprised, choose, and step slightly away from the automatic path.

The second part keeps that freedom from turning into fantasy. Imagination alone is not enough if someone else is allowed to direct one’s life. That can mean waiting for another person to decide, blaming circumstances for everything, living to satisfy other people’s expectations, or abandoning one’s own voice. Oliver’s alternative is responsibility without resignation: preserve wonder, but take charge.

The quotation appears in “Upstream: Selected Essays,” according to compilations of Oliver’s work. Its force lies in presenting independence not as hardness, but as loyalty to life. Responsibility does not require extinguishing imagination. Imagination may help reveal which life deserves to be undertaken.

That message fits Oliver’s wider work. Born in 1935 and deceased in 2019, she received the Pulitzer Prize, the National Book Award, and a Lannan Literary Award for lifetime achievement. Her books included “House of Light,” “New and Selected Poems,” “A Thousand Mornings,” “Dog Songs,” “Felicity,” “Upstream,” and “Devotions.” Her work suggested that growing up need not mean obeying every expectation. A person can work, care, decide, and sustain a life of their own without giving up humor, beauty, mystery, or the ability to look at a flower as if it still mattered.

Never stop being capricious. And never, ever give anyone else responsibility for your life.

· Mary OliverThe quotation anchors the article’s discussion of wonder, independence, and personal responsibility.
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