My sister has kids and I feel like she doesn’t care about me anymore

A reader is struggling with a perceived one-sided relationship with their sister, who has two young children. The reader typically arranges all social meet-ups, but has grown tired of the effort. Although the sister says "Call over any time," the reader feels this places the burden of initiating contact entirely on them. This has led to a three-month gap in contact, with the reader hesitant to reach out for fear of seeming childish or obliging their sister.

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Call over any time

The advice column, written for a childfree audience, acknowledges the common shift in friendships when one partner has children. It highlights the perks of a childfree life, such as uninterrupted adult conversations and financial freedom, contrasting it with the demands of parenting. The column suggests that this difference in lifestyles can create a stark divide, impacting friendships.

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Maybe I’m unreasonable in my thinking, but in my opinion that narrative ensures that my sister completely washes her hands of putting any effort into the relationship as it puts the onus on the visitor to instigate any meet-ups.

The writer is advised to consider the "Childfree Club," a space for those without children to share their experiences. The column implies that while friendships may change, understanding and acceptance within these different life stages are key. The advice aims to validate the reader's feelings while offering a perspective on navigating these evolving relationships.

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This has resulted in a, perhaps one-sided, cold war-type environment where I’ve stopped initiating meet-ups and we haven’t seen each other for almost three months.