Nature or nurture? What is behind the ‘Eldest Daughter Syndrome’

A book examining the phenomenon of 'eldest daughter syndrome' has achieved bestseller status in Taiwan, prompting translations into multiple languages and sparking wider discussion. The syndrome identifies a pattern of perfectionism, people-pleasing tendencies, burnout, and anxiety commonly experienced by first-born women within East Asian societies.

These struggles often stem from the significant psychological and physical pressures first-born daughters face within their family environments. The article delves into how these ingrained traits can transcend the private sphere, impacting professional lives and workplace dynamics. It questions the root causes of these pressures and expectations.

Taiwan correspondent Yip Wai Yee, who identifies as a first-born daughter herself, shares personal experiences and discusses the origins of this syndrome with foreign editor Li Xueying. The conversation explores the societal expectations that contribute to these pressures, distinguishing between myth and reality. It also addresses how the eldest daughter syndrome can manifest in workplace burnout and difficulties in setting boundaries.

The discussion further examines strategies for managing guilt and asserting personal needs, particularly the challenge of learning to say 'no.' The article references related writings by Yip Wai Yee and Li Xueying, offering readers further insights into this complex social and psychological issue.