Obstacles removed by parents may be steps for growth

A recent drama series, 'True Education,' has sparked discussion by depicting parents who constantly interfere in their children's school lives, removing any perceived inconvenience. This resonates with the public due to the reality of parental complaints that surfaced after a teacher's suicide at Seocho Elementary School.

This parenting style, known as 'bulldozer parenting,' goes beyond 'helicopter parenting' by proactively removing all potential problems from a child's path. However, this approach can paradoxically lead to children who are less resilient. By clearing away every difficulty, parents prevent children from learning basic social skills necessary for adulthood.

Psychologically, this stems from a lack of self-efficacy, the belief in one's ability to overcome challenges. When parents make all decisions and remove all obstacles, children miss the chance to build this crucial sense of confidence. Success without a process does not foster self-assurance; instead, it can instill a feeling of powerlessness.

Children raised this way may appear diligent and obedient but often harbor chronic anxiety, fearing they won't meet expectations and constantly seeking external validation for simple decisions. This can lead to a late-life rebellion as they struggle to find their own identity after a childhood of compliance.

Ultimately, children need the experience of failure and conflict resolution, not an environment free of mistakes. Overcoming arguments with friends, retaking exams, or reflecting on mistakes after being reprimanded by a teacher are the true building blocks of self-confidence. The obstacles parents remove might actually be the steps children need to climb.