One year into marriage, husband's affair with intern leaves wife conflicted

A 32-year-old South Korean civil servant is grappling with a profound dilemma: divorce or forgiveness, after uncovering her husband's infidelity just over a year into their marriage. The woman, identified only as Ms. A, revealed on an anonymous online community that her husband, whom she had been with for seven years since their dating days, had an affair with a 25-year-old university student working part-time at his company.

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My husband had an affair with a 25-year-old university student who worked part-time at his company for about four months.

Ms. A stated that her husband grew cold and distant during the approximately four months of the affair. He had claimed to be studying at a library after work, but she later discovered he was meeting the other woman. Although she was aware of her husband and the employee socializing with colleagues, she never suspected an affair until they were caught.

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He was so cold to me during that period. I thought he was going to a study room after work, but he was meeting that woman.

She confirmed the affair by checking her husband's phone and recorded his confession. She has also initiated legal action against the employee. Ms. A has informed both families and friends about the situation. Her husband is reportedly deeply remorseful, having lost over 7 kilograms in two weeks due to loss of appetite.

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I thought divorce was the only option at first. I feel ashamed, and it's hard to get through each day, but I also think he's genuinely remorseful and won't do it again.

Despite her initial certainty about divorce, Ms. A finds herself conflicted. She questions why she is afraid of divorce, acknowledging her lingering feelings and attachment to her husband. She recognizes the difficulty of rebuilding trust after such a betrayal, especially so early in the marriage, but admits her heart holds onto a sense of regret and attachment. The online community largely advised her to proceed with divorce, citing the duration of the affair and the difficulty of regaining trust.

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You're already in the early stages of your marriage, and he cheated. What more is there to see? Life is real.