Psychologist Gabriel Rolón: Meeting at the wrong time is a trap of destiny

Meeting someone at the wrong time can be a "trap of destiny," leaving individuals more pained than if they had never met, according to psychologist Gabriel Rolón. He explained that the timing of an encounter can be as significant as the connection between two people, particularly when one is still processing a previous relationship.

During a segment on Urbana Play's "Perros de la Calle," Rolón addressed the common scenario of meeting someone new while still experiencing grief from a past breakup. He stated that such relationships often become a source of suffering because one person is not yet prepared for a new chapter. "What arrives at the wrong time is as if it never arrived. So if I meet you at the wrong time, it's as if I never met you. It's thinking: 'How happy we could have been,' but the conditions weren't right," he reflected.

Rolón also cautioned against the misconception that the grieving process begins only after a separation. He noted that many people start this process long before the final decision to end a relationship is made. "There are people who don't separate and start grieving. There are people who separate when they can no longer bear it. The separation is almost the last step of a grief they have been going through as a couple," he observed.

Therefore, he emphasized the importance of assessing one's emotional stage before becoming involved with someone. While acknowledging that some aspects of a past relationship may linger after a breakup, Rolón highlighted the difference between someone who has processed most of the loss and someone still experiencing intense emotions. He warned that initiating a relationship while still emotionally tied to an ex-partner can lead to confusion and suffering for the new partner, who may face reactions unrelated to the current relationship.