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Psychology says we come into the world to unlearn what we were taught and discover new things

From La Nación · () Spanish

Translated from Spanish and summarized by DistantNews. Read the original for the full story.

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Interview Named sources Context piece
  • Chilean psychologist and writer Pilar Sordo discussed how social bonds, language, and inner dialogue shape emotional stability.
  • She said reduced vocabulary, reliance on emoticons, and declining patience make it harder for people to express themselves and feel heard.
  • Sordo argued that self-talk influences self-esteem, worldview, grief, life purpose, and emotional expression, while discomfort can prompt personal growth.

Pilar Sordo says people come into the world not only to learn, but to take apart what they have been taught. For the Chilean psychologist and writer, that process depends on an inner conversation that can become a powerful tool for self-knowledge and self-care.

We come into the world to get to know ourselves, to take apart what we were taught, and to unlearn more than learn new things. In that learning, inner dialogue is a powerful tool for self-knowledge and self-care.

· Pilar SordoThe psychologist described the role of inner dialogue in personal development.

In an interview with José del Rio for LA NACION, Sordo examined how social relationships and language have changed. She argued that people now use a smaller vocabulary when they speak, making it harder to describe what is happening inside them. She cited Spanish psychiatrist José Luis Marín’s view that people can become ill through a lack of words, and said replacing language with devices such as emoticons weakens the depth of relationships.

Sordo also described a loss of patience on both sides of a conversation. People increasingly struggle to explain what they feel, while those listening have less patience to receive it. That makes it difficult to create exchanges in which both participants feel heard and attended to. A real conversation, she said, should carry the risk of changing a person through what the other says. Without that possibility, dialogue becomes “a kind of intermittent monologue.”

The way you speak to yourself defines your self-esteem and your view of the world.

· Pilar SordoSordo explained how self-perception shapes relationships and emotional life.

After researching inner dialogue for eight years, Sordo concluded that the way people speak to themselves shapes both their self-esteem and their view of the world. Someone who sees themselves as trustworthy or noble may project those qualities onto their surroundings. Self-perception also influences how people experience grief, define their purpose, and express emotions.

A kind of intermittent monologue.

· Pilar SordoShe used the phrase to describe conversations in which neither participant truly listens or changes.

Sordo presented discomfort as an unavoidable part of maturity. She criticized the social demand for constant happiness and said, “Discomfort is the only invitation to growth.” The friction that comes with recognizing the need to change can be difficult to accept, but she described it as the force that makes growth and a reordering of priorities possible.

Discomfort is the only invitation to growth.

· Pilar SordoSordo argued that uncomfortable experiences can prompt maturity and change.
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Originally published by La Nación in Spanish. Translated, summarized, and contextualized automatically by DistantNews, with a note on how the source frames the story. Not individually reviewed before publishing. How this works.

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