Raising Children in an Age of Hate: How to Foster Understanding and Respect

In an era frequently labeled as one of "hate," the article delves into the pervasive nature of divisive language and its impact on society, particularly on children. The author notes the increasing difficulty in distinguishing between genuine animosity and casual expressions of dislike, a sentiment amplified by the experience of becoming a parent.

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We seem to be living in an era where we divide ourselves and hate each other based on gender, political affiliation, region, or even age.

The piece reflects on the anxieties of raising a child in a world where even a child's presence can be viewed as an inconvenience or a target for hate. This leads to a constant worry for parents about their children causing distress to others. The author questions when society became so quick to divide itself and foster animosity towards those perceived as different.

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I became more sensitive to this feeling after having a child and becoming a parent, realizing that there are many people who find the mere presence of children inconvenient or view them as objects of hate.

Drawing parallels with the concept of "structural injustice" from political philosophy, the article suggests that societal ills like hate culture are not solely the product of malicious individuals but can arise from the everyday actions of ordinary people. It proposes that the path forward lies not in eradicating all negative feelings but in choosing not to "truly hate" and in consciously avoiding letting hateful emotions dominate one's inner life.

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When we encounter the world of hate again and again, it might be that these unspoken feelings have accumulated, leading to the emergence of abbreviations like 'Halman-ha-an' (much to say but won't say).

The author, identified as "Halman-eojun" (one with much to say but not saying it), receives advice from writer Yojo, who encourages a nuanced approach to dealing with hate. Yojo suggests that while it's acceptable to dislike certain actions or words, one should refrain from hating the entirety of a person's being. Furthermore, Yojo advises against allowing hate to consume one's emotional landscape, framing this as a personal commitment rather than a societal mandate.

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The term 'hate' is used confusingly. It's used for lighthearted jokes like 'Mint chocolate is the worst!' but also exists in unacceptable violence against vulnerable groups.