Self-Questioning: A Path to Maturity

A professor recounts a formative childhood experience: at eight years old, he was beaten and forced to write twenty pages of self-criticism for uttering a curse word in class. The incident, which occurred in a coal mining town where profanity was common, left a lasting impression. He wonders if a different approach from his teacher, perhaps one that questioned the severity of the punishment itself, might have led to a more constructive outcome.

This reflection leads the author to explore the power of 're-asking' questions, not as rhetorical devices to corner others, but as tools for self-examination. He contrasts questions with predetermined answers, like "How could someone do that?" with introspective inquiries such as, "Is that really something to hate?" or "Is that truly worth getting angry about?"

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Is that really something to hate? Is that truly worth getting angry about?

By directing these probing questions inward during moments of strong emotion – whether it be anger, joy, or dislike – individuals can disrupt their immediate judgments. The author argues that this internal dialogue creates a space for doubt, challenging the certainty of one's own beliefs. "It might not be that way!" becomes a possible realization.

In a society where people readily criticize others but rarely question themselves, the practice of 're-asking' is presented as a crucial step toward personal growth. The author suggests that consistently applying this self-reflective method can transform a stubborn individual into a more adaptable and mature adult, fostering a more nuanced understanding of oneself and the world.

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Re-asking cracks that self-evidence. By repeatedly asking oneself questions, we will move from stubborn old folks toward flexible adults.