Sexual therapist explains the five 'worst things' to say to your partner intimately
Translated from Spanish, summarized and contextualized by DistantNews.
At a glance
- A sexual therapist identified five phrases that can negatively impact intimacy and create insecurity in a relationship.
- These phrases, often said without malicious intent, can cause pressure, anxiety, and feelings of rejection.
- Experts recommend expressing discomfort respectfully rather than using hurtful words or gestures during intimate moments.
Communication during intimate moments can be challenging, even when sex is less of a taboo. Sexual therapists highlight common pitfalls, identifying five phrases that can damage a couple's intimacy and create unnecessary insecurities. The impact of these comments often outweighs the speaker's intention.
According to therapist Annabelle Knight, asking "Are you done yet?" can create pressure and anxiety, making a partner feel rushed or undervalued. This can hinder relaxation and enjoyment, potentially delaying orgasm. Similarly, questioning a partner's heavy breathing, unless out of genuine health concern, can break the mood and trust. Experts advise interpreting such reactions as natural responses to intense physical and emotional activity.
Beyond words, non-verbal cues can also be damaging. Gestures of disgust or contempt can erode self-esteem and trust, making a partner feel instantly rejected or undesirable. Knight emphasizes that expressing discomfort constructively is far more effective than conveying rejection through facial expressions. The article also cautions against asking "Is this your first time?" as it can cause discomfort for those with less experience or be perceived as an insult to more experienced partners.
These insights underscore the importance of mindful communication and sensitivity during intimate encounters. By avoiding these common phrases and gestures, couples can foster a more secure and enjoyable intimate environment.
Preguntarle a tu pareja si estรก a punto de terminar puede hacerla sentir apresurada, poco valorada o incluso cohibida. Presionar a tu pareja puede dificultar que se relaje y disfrute plenamente de la experiencia, e incluso puede retrasar aรบn mรกs su orgasmo.
Originally published by La Naciรณn in Spanish. Translated, summarized, and contextualized by our editorial team with added local perspective. Read our editorial standards.