The 'superwomen' dilemma: Finding a partner who celebrates success

Psychologist Antonio Bolinches has identified a demographic he terms "superwomen" – typically attractive, intelligent, educated women between 40 and 60 years old, possessing high income and status. According to his observations, a significant challenge for these women is finding a male partner who matches their level. Bolinches suggests that as many as four out of five "superwomen" may struggle to find a man "at their level," a sentiment echoed by the article's author who, despite not fully fitting the age bracket, found herself identifying with the described predicament.

Bolinches posits that these "superwomen" require a "mature, self-realized man prepared to rejoice in her success." However, the author challenges this notion, questioning whether a man is truly a necessity in the way a plumber or a doctor might be. She argues that while practical needs are clear, the requirement for a specific type of male partner is less defined. Drawing from varied experiences, she observes that even mature and self-realized men often struggle to genuinely celebrate a woman's success, regardless of its magnitude.

The author proposes that the core issue for women, regardless of their "super" status, lies in broader societal dynamics, referencing Rebecca Solnit's concept of "mansplaining" – the condescending way men explain things to women, even on subjects they know well. The article implies that these ingrained behaviors, along with others like "manspreading," represent more significant obstacles than the specific criteria for a partner. The piece concludes with a call for younger generations of women to be aware of these persistent issues, suggesting that men's fundamental behaviors are unlikely to change without significant societal shifts.

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cuatro de cada cinco “no encontrarán un hombre a su altura”