A Tihar story that questions traditions

KaruBooks launched Karuna Paneru’s third children’s book, ‘Tihar in Patan,’ at The Inn Cafe in Patan Dhoka on Saturday. Paneru, who published her first book at age seven, explores themes of inclusivity for women in Nepal’s festivals and cultural celebrations in her latest work.

Paneru stated that her experiences growing up in Nepal’s patriarchal society and conversations with her mother and aunts inspired the book. Set in 1970s Patan during Tihar, the author’s favorite holiday, the story highlights social expectations placed on women. "When we sit down for the festivities, we are expected to sit according to age. But if I have a younger male family member, he will be seated ahead of me. This made me ponder the social expectations placed on women," Paneru explained at the launch.

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When we sit down for the festivities, we are expected to sit according to age. But if I have a younger male family member, he will be seated ahead of me. This made me ponder the social expectations placed on women. These thoughts and conversations inspired me to write this book.

The children’s book features illustrations by Bhawana Tulachan, who has collaborated with organizations like Room to Read Nepal and Save the Children. The book launch was attended by Paneru’s family, friends, well-wishers, educators, and writers. Former Nepal’s Ambassador to Denmark, Sumnima Tuladhar, attended as the chief guest, commending Paneru’s writing and finding the story relatable.

The narrative centers on eight-year-old Sani, whose participation in Tihar is challenged by imposed social standards. She realizes these expectations conflict with her own aspirations for her life and future. Ultimately, Sani finds support from liberal family members. The book aims to prompt young readers to question existing social structures and their consequences, while celebrating positive cultural aspects for the next generation.

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I draw from the experiences of older women in my family. Talking to my mother and aunts inspired me to write about growing up in Nepal’s patriarchal society.