My marriage… With Benjamin Ishaya

Benjamin Ishaya recounts meeting his wife, Rahab, through a mutual friend – his best friend, who happened to be Rahab's cousin. Hailing from Zango Kataf Local Government Area in Kaduna State, Ishaya was introduced to Rahab when she visited her aunt, who lived in his neighborhood and attended the same church. This introduction marked the beginning of their journey together.

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One of the first things I liked about her was her respectful nature. She is also God-fearing and came from a disciplined family. Most importantly, she is a devoted Christian.

Ishaya was initially attracted to Rahab's respectful demeanor and her God-fearing nature, qualities he attributed to her disciplined family background. He also noted her deep devotion as a Christian. The foundation of their relationship was strong, bolstered by the positive accounts Rahab had heard about Ishaya from his best friend and confirmed by her aunt. This mutual trust and familiarity made the proposal straightforward, with Rahab gladly accepting.

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Proposing to her was so easy because my best friend had already told her much about me, and she confirmed this with her aunt. It was easy for me, so when I proposed to her, she gladly accepted my proposal.

Their courtship lasted six years, culminating in their marriage on December 6, 2009. God has since blessed them with three children. Ishaya acknowledges that financial readiness is an important consideration before marriage, emphasizing the man's responsibility to manage household finances. Although he had a small business at the time of their marriage, he was not yet fully established in his career.

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In marriage, financial might is an important factor to consider. As a man, you must be ready to take your responsibility in paying your bills.

Reflecting on his wedding day, Ishaya cherishes the church service, particularly the joyous atmosphere created by various singing groups that led the congregation in dance and celebration. He advises young people planning to marry to be prayerful and seek God's guidance in finding the right partner. "Marriage is not a child’s play," he stresses, underscoring the seriousness and commitment involved.

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The memorable part of my wedding was during the church service. Different singing groups sang songs of praise that made us dance; it was a joyous moment as the whole congregation danced and rejoiced with us.