My marriage… With Oludare Falayi

Oludare Falayi, now residing in the United Kingdom, offered a personal perspective on maintaining a long-term marriage. Having relocated from Ondo State, Nigeria, to the UK in 2022, Falayi has been married for 13 years since 2012.

He recounted meeting his wife in Akure in December 2006 when she was a student. Falayi expressed his initial hope for marriage, stating she was precisely what he desired and committed to the relationship. He described his wife's surprise and excitement upon his proposal, noting that their parents were supportive and advised them to remain committed and pray.

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My advice to young couples aspiring to have a long-lasting marriage is to build trust through consistency, being reliable, and acting with integrity day after day, while also protecting their marriage.

The couple has two children, and Falayi highlighted welcoming their babies and building a happy home as the most memorable moments of their marriage. He advised young couples to cultivate trust through consistency, reliability, and integrity, emphasizing the importance of protecting their union.

Addressing the rise in marriage breakups in Nigeria and the UK, Falayi attributed the trend to factors like financial instability, family pressure, and infidelity. However, he pinpointed poor communication, trust issues, domestic violence, and abuse as primary causes. His recommendation for aspiring couples is to learn effective conflict resolution skills before marriage and to practice honesty and mutual respect.

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The increase in marriage breakups in Nigeria and the UK is due to different factors, such as financial instability, family pressure, and infidelity. However, I think the main causes are poor communication, trust issues, domestic violence, and abuse.