Psychologist explains 'reversal of gratitude' in Chen Hsing-yu's divorce from Chao Chien-ming

Former President Chen Shui-bian's daughter, Chen Hsing-yu, recently announced her divorce from physician Chao Chien-ming, detailing disputes that include Chao's perceived coldness towards her and her mother, Wu Shu-chen, and his alleged failure to return their children's education fund. The situation has drawn expert analysis, with some commentators highlighting the concept of "reversal of gratitude" to explain Chao's alleged behavior.

Psychiatrist Chou Po-han explained that "reversal of gratitude" originates from Western psychology. It describes a psychological state where an individual who has received kindness or favors does not express gratitude. Instead, they may develop aversion, criticism, or even oppressive feelings towards the benefactor. Chou noted that the core concept involves "psychological debt."

In Chao Chien-ming's case, Chou suggested that Chao might have expected privileges upon marrying into Chen Hsing-yu's family. However, he also faced scrutiny and gossip from those around him. This could lead to "cognitive distortion," where individuals might downplay the contributions of others, including benefactors, to feel better about themselves, even after achieving personal success, such as becoming a chief physician.

Chou further posited that Chao's potential resentment towards the Chen family might have intensified after his imprisonment, a point seemingly supported by Chen Hsing-yu's statements. While acknowledging that such situations in ordinary families depend on the couple's choices, Chou stated that if both parties are self-reliant, divorce is a viable option, depending on their decisions.

The analysis delves into the psychological underpinnings of relationship breakdowns, particularly when perceived obligations and resentments intertwine. Chen Hsing-yu's public statements shed light on the personal turmoil, while expert commentary offers a framework for understanding the complex emotional dynamics at play.

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Reversal of gratitude describes a psychological state where the recipient of kindness does not express gratitude, but instead develops aversion or criticism towards the benefactor.