Sexologist suggests 'mindful masturbation' for relaxation

Sexologist Angie Rowntree advocates for "mindful masturbation," a practice that applies mindfulness principles to self-pleasure. She suggests this approach can significantly reduce stress, foster a deeper understanding of one's own body, and cultivate a healthier relationship with sexuality.

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It is an empowering way to explore your own sexuality that helps to stop experiencing masturbation as something that needs to be done as quickly or mechanically as possible.

Rowntree explains that mindful masturbation shifts the focus from achieving orgasm quickly to experiencing and exploring sensations. "It is an empowering way to explore your own sexuality that helps to stop experiencing masturbation as something that needs to be done as quickly or mechanically as possible," she states. This practice encourages individuals to pay attention to what feels good, what doesn't, and how their needs change with mood, potentially leading to the release of relaxing hormones like oxytocin and a long-term decrease in the stress hormone cortisol.

The sexologist emphasizes that by removing the pressure to satisfy a partner or meet external expectations, individuals can more freely explore different types of touch, rhythms, and erogenous zones. "Learn to listen to your body. Notice what works for you, what doesn't, how your needs change depending on your mood, and what helps you relax," Rowntree advises.

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Learn to listen to your body. Notice what works for you, what doesn't, how your needs change depending on your mood, and what helps you relax.

Furthermore, a better understanding of one's own desires can positively impact partnered sexual experiences. Rowntree suggests that individuals who practice mindful masturbation may find it easier to communicate their preferences to a partner, leading to more satisfying intimacy. She recommends starting in a quiet place, engaging in slow, deep breathing to center oneself, and then exploring the body gradually, focusing on the experience rather than the end goal.

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The goal is not to reach orgasm as quickly as possible, but to slow down and pay attention to what you are feeling.