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Three Ways to Enjoy Sex Alone or With a Partner Without Obsessing Over Perfection

From El Comercio · () Spanish

Translated from Spanish and summarized by DistantNews. Read the original for the full story.

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  • The article offers three ways to make solo or partnered sex more enjoyable by setting aside unrealistic expectations of perfection.
  • It emphasizes comfort, consent, communication and the use of lubricants or other aids without pressure to achieve a specific physical goal.
  • It also encourages people to explore preferences, discuss boundaries and introduce new forms of intimacy.

Real sex is messy. It can leave you tousled, sweaty and makeup-free, with awkward movements, laughter, pauses and things that simply do not work. That does not mean anything is wrong.

The first step toward enjoying intimacy more, the article says, is to stop chasing the supposedly perfect experience shown on television, in films and online. People can instead discover what works for them, whether they are alone or with someone else. Getting to know yourself is presented as the starting point for exploring intimacy without pressure.

Comfort should come before fixed expectations, sexologist Mafer Serrano says. A couple may try something that looked appealing in a film and find it uncomfortable. Rather than continuing because it seems like something they should do, they can stop, talk and find another way to be together. If one person wants to stop, the activity should stop.

The article recommends taking time with foreplay, choosing comfortable positions and avoiding anything that causes pain. Toys can also help people explore different sensations, but preferences vary and comfort and safety should remain the priority. Lubricant can make movement easier and prevent discomfort.

The goal is not to complete a task or find a particular point on the body. It is to discover what feels good. Open conversations about boundaries, shared fantasies, sensual games, massages, blindfolds and unusual dates can help couples leave routine behind and learn more about each other’s desires.

because that is how it should be

· Article guidanceThe article describes the pressure people may feel to continue an uncomfortable activity because it appears expected or normal.
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Originally published by El Comercio in Spanish. Translated, summarized, and contextualized automatically by DistantNews, with a note on how the source frames the story. Not individually reviewed before publishing. How this works.

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