Aging Willingly, Expecting Today Too

Embracing old age is a challenge few people readily accept, with even older individuals often oscillating between identifying with their age and rejecting it. Phrases like 'What's wrong with my age?' and 'Age is just a number' reflect attempts to adapt to this internal conflict. A contributing factor to this struggle is the scarcity of positive cultural narratives surrounding old age.

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Few people are willing to imagine aging gladly. Even older individuals themselves sometimes oscillate between their identity as elderly and not elderly.

Drawing a parallel to the Japanese activist's plea to be asked 'What do you want?' rather than 'What do you need?', the article suggests that this sentiment applies to aging as well. As people age, their bodies change, leading them to see, hear, walk, and feel differently, and consequently, desire different things. A society's capacity for care is demonstrated by its existential curiosity and interest in these changes, viewing older adults as fellow citizens.

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The words 'What's wrong with my age?' and 'Age is just a number' refer to a kind of adaptation process to these conflicting situations.

The article calls for a comprehensive life perspective where assistive devices like dentures, glasses, and walkers are not seen as symbols of unfortunate decline. Instead, they should be understood as markers of different bodily functions and the unique life capabilities that accompany them. This perspective shift is crucial for fostering a society that truly supports its aging population.

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The fact that there are very few cultural narratives of old age that can be chosen is also one of the reasons for this conflict.

Ultimately, the piece encourages readers to envision their own 70s and 80s with a sense of eager anticipation, much like the character 'Invincible Young-ja.' This character wakes up each morning ready to face the day, embodying a spirit of resilience and forward-looking optimism that can inspire others to embrace their later years with joy and expectation.

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The words of the Japanese dementia patient activist, who asked to be asked 'What do you want?' rather than 'What do you need?', can also be applied to old age.