Child as a threat: Anthropologist on a culture that no longer wants children

The notion of an "anti-natalist culture" presents a conceptual challenge for anthropologists, as culture, by definition, relies on continuity and transmission to future generations. Historically, no culture has actively renounced procreation; children were a given, not a subject of debate. However, a growing sentiment suggests a shift, potentially fueled by a belief that contemporary life is inherently worse than the past, even as objective indicators in Europe point to unprecedented living standards.

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the very concept of 'anti-natalist culture' is problematic for an anthropologist – culture by definition implies transmission, and here we would have a community renouncing continuation.

One interpretation of this reluctance to have children is linked to a form of "hidden narcissism," where the decision not to procreate is framed as a display of superior morality. This perspective suggests individuals prioritize showcasing their ethical stance over the continuation of the species. Another, perhaps simpler, explanation offered by researchers points to the increasing costs associated with parenthood, both financial and emotional.

Sociologists diagnose a broader trend within postmodern culture, characterized by hyper-individualism that can morph into narcissism. In this framework, other people are increasingly perceived as potential threats – individuals who might encroach upon one's time, emotional energy, or financial resources. This transactional view of relationships, coupled with a desire for control, leads to disappointment when children or partners do not perfectly align with pre-conceived expectations.

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today is worse than it was

The decline of traditional community structures, such as extended families and neighborhoods that once shared the burden of childcare, has contributed to a growing "child-phobia." The sounds of children playing, once a natural part of the urban soundscape, are now often perceived as intrusions on personal comfort and privacy. Meanwhile, state policies, according to some analyses, treat children as a resource for future societal needs like pensions, military strength, or demographic balance, rather than valuing the parental love behind their conception.

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a possible form of hidden narcissism: a gesture of showing one's morality 'at the highest levels'.

Beneath these factors, some scholars sense a deeper issue concerning the erosion of love itself. The act of having a child is fundamentally rooted in love, and a difficulty in loving others, perhaps more than oneself, may underlie the declining birth rates. This perspective echoes observations about a world "after the end of love," where interpersonal connection becomes increasingly challenging. However, a counterpoint suggests that reality may be more optimistic than online discourse implies, with many families continuing to find joy in ordinary family life.

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the cost of parenthood.