Lithuanian influencer shares how divorce reshaped her financial views

Lithuanian influencer Gerda Žemaitė has opened up about how her divorce profoundly altered her approach to money, shifting her focus from constant work to financial planning and literacy. Previously, she admitted, "It seemed that the most important thing was to work, earn, and take care of what is relevant today. I thought less about investing, a financial cushion, or long-term planning. Perhaps I lived with the thought that I would think about tomorrow later."

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It seemed that the most important thing was to work, earn, and take care of what is relevant today. I thought less about investing, a financial cushion, or long-term planning. Perhaps I lived with the thought that I would think about tomorrow later.

Her personal life changes, particularly her divorce, served as both an emotional and financial turning point. "After the divorce, I learned to count money differently. When you are solely responsible for everything, you start to see much more clearly where it actually goes. There is more responsibility, more planning, and fewer spontaneous decisions," she stated. This period prompted her to actively seek knowledge about financial literacy.

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After the divorce, I learned to count money differently. When you are solely responsible for everything, you start to see much more clearly where it actually goes. There is more responsibility, more planning, and fewer spontaneous decisions.

Following financial consultant Roberta Kazilionienė on social media, Žemaitė sought personal consultation. "I came hoping to better understand investing, but I received much more. I also had to hear quite a few remarks about financial stability, decisions, and habits. It was a useful lesson that made me look at many things differently," she recalled. Kazilionienė stressed that a common mistake among women is the belief that a man will provide financial security. "There are still women who expect a man to support them, because that's how it should be. This is the biggest illusion. A man is not a bank account. My firm position is that every woman must know her financial situation, have her own money, invest, and build her own financial security," Kazilionienė asserted.

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I came hoping to better understand investing, but I received much more. I also had to hear quite a few remarks about financial stability, decisions, and habits. It was a useful lesson that made me look at many things differently.

Kazilionienė also noted that divorces often reveal financial situations partners were unaware of, such as assets registered under other names. "In practice, I see various situations. Sometimes it turns out that family assets or investments are registered in the names of other people, and the woman remains unaware of the true situation. Therefore, one should be interested in finances not when problems start, but much earlier," she advised. Žemaitė found these words particularly resonant, realizing that "financial security is not a given. It needs to be built. It once seemed that working hard was the most important thing, and everything else would fall into place on its own. Now I know that earning alone is not enough – you need to know how to manage money."

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There are still women who expect a man to support them, because that's how it should be. This is the biggest illusion. A man is not a bank account. My firm position is that every woman must know her financial situation, have her own money, invest, and build her own financial security.